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How I Learned to Plan the Perfect Honeymoon Without Losing My Mind (Or My Savings)

How I Learned to Plan the Perfect Honeymoon Without Losing My Mind (Or My Savings)

Planning a honeymoon can feel like trying to solve a Rubik’s cube blindfolded while someone yells wedding venue changes at you.

I get it. You’re exhausted from wedding planning. Your brain is mush. And now someone’s asking you to coordinate international flights, book romantic restaurants, and somehow not blow your entire life savings on seven days in paradise.

Let me walk you through this without the fluff.

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First Things First: Get Real About Your Money

Here’s what nobody tells you until it’s too late. The average honeymoon runs between $5,100 and $5,300.[1][2] That’s not pocket change.

I watched my cousin book a “spontaneous” trip to Bora Bora and spend the next two years eating ramen to recover. Don’t be my cousin.

Set your budget before you fall in love with that overwater bungalow.

Financial folks suggest spending 5-10% of your annual household income on your honeymoon.[2] Not sexy math, I know. But way sexier than credit card debt.

Here’s how the money actually breaks down:

  • Flights eat 20-35% of your budget (more if you’re going international)
  • Accommodations vary wildly depending on your style
  • Food, activities, and “oh we should do that” moments gobble up the rest

Grab a travel budget planner and actually write this stuff down. Your future self will thank you.

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Where Are We Even Going? The Destination Discussion

You want beaches. Your partner wants mountains. Classic.

Here’s what worked for me: we each wrote down three dream destinations without peeking at each other’s lists.[3] Found one overlap. Booked it. Done.

Consider what matters most:

  • Luxury digs where someone brings you drinks with umbrellas
  • Adventure stuff like zip-lining through rainforests
  • Cultural experiences that don’t involve standing in museum lines for three hours
  • Doing absolutely nothing but existing in a better climate

Your priorities determine where your money goes.[2] I’d rather stay in a decent hotel and eat incredible food than sleep in a palace and subsist on gas station sandwiches. Know yourself.

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The Timeline That Actually Works

6-7 months before you leave:

Book your flights and accommodations NOW.[5] Waiting doesn’t make things cheaper despite what your brain wants to believe. It makes things unavailable or stupidly expensive.

I learned this the hard way when every reasonable hotel in Santorini was booked and we ended up in a place that smelled like old cheese.

Check your passport expiration dates. Seriously. Right now. Go look.

Many countries won’t let you in if your passport expires within six months of your travel dates.

2-3 months out:

Time to book the special stuff.[3] That sunset dinner cruise. The cooking class. The guided tour that actually looks cool and not like a tourist trap.

Popular experiences fill up fast, especially during peak season.[1] I tried booking a wine tour in Tuscany two weeks before our trip. Everything was booked. We ended up at a place that served wine that tasted like regret.

2 weeks before:

Make your packing list with packing cubes. These things are magic for staying organized. Triple-check that you have all your travel documents. Confirm all your reservations.

The week of:

Check the weather. Adjust your packing if needed. Set up someone to grab your mail. Make sure your plants won’t die (or accept their fate).

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Breaking Down the Costs Without Breaking Down

Let’s talk real numbers:

Flights:

  • Domestic: $300-800 per person
  • International: $800-2,000+ per person (sometimes way more depending on where and when)

Where you’ll sleep:

  • All-inclusive resorts: $4,000-8,000 total (but includes food and drinks)
  • Hotels: Wild variation from budget to “is this room made of gold?”
  • Vacation rentals: Often cheaper, especially if you cook some meals

Activities:

  • Guided tours: $100-300+ per person
  • Special experiences (helicopter rides, private yacht, swimming with dolphins): $200-800+
  • Beach chairs: Free if you walk far enough

Food:

  • All-inclusive means you stop thinking about it
  • Going out for every meal adds up faster than you think
  • Street food is often the best food anyway

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How to Not Go Broke

Open a separate savings account just for this trip.[2] Set up automatic transfers every month. Even $100 a month adds up over time.

Use a travel rewards credit card for wedding expenses if you can pay it off.[2] The points stack up. We got two free flights to Costa Rica this way.

Consider travel organizer folders to keep all your confirmations and important documents in one place.

All-inclusive packages often save money overall.[2] You pay one price and stop doing mental math every time you want a drink. The mental freedom is worth it.

Book activities online before you go. Tour companies charge more when you book on location. They know you’re already there and won’t walk away.

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